I think it’s all in numbers, and therefore all in the mind.  Although one woman told me she could tell I was older by my eyes.   And I’m really not that old.  So, I just turned forty-one.  Everyone always told me I looked younger, so a lot of times I never mentioned age.  Or I’d ask someone to guess, and if they said anywhere between thirty-five and thirty-eight, I’d say that number sounds good and smile.  Recently, though, I’ve been unsure how to handle the internet.  Because it’s a fill in the blank form, instead of a conversation, it forces me to put down a number.  The thing about it is that I don’t want to be cut out of someone’s search, just because of age. 

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